Sister Compares Teenage Niece To Convict Brother After Niece Bullies Her Daughter, An Unfortunate Family Reunion

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kalila courban
Dec 30, 2021 9:00 AM EST

Sometimes estranged family membersare estranged for a good reason. And there is clearly troubled background at play here for everyone involved which almost never makes for a joyous reunion. OP's brother is away for good, serving his time and she thinks it might be time to reconnect with the woman and child he left behind. The recipe for disaster continues to heat up when OP's now teenage niece shows some troubling personality traits that can't help but remind OP of her convict brother. Our advice? Go no contact and live happily ever after. Just seems like the most peaceful way go about this complicated situation.

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    Product - Posted by u/middleagedluny8278 1 day ago AITA for telling my "SIL" that her daughter is like her father?
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    Font - My brother has been in prison for well over a decade, serving life. When he went in he left behind his pregnant girlfriend, "Anna" but she moved away before she gave birth to their daughter, and we fell out of touch.
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    Font - Anna was a medical student at the time and is now a doctor. Their daughter, "Lucy" is 19 and Anna has just started to reconnect with our side of the family. Lucy has started writing to her father in prison and Anna has been emailing with me.
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    Font - I invited them to come and stay with us for Christmas. It was a mistake. When I first met Lucy I thought she was lovely. She was really polite and friendly, and also ambitious for her future. She's studying economics at a top university and doing very well.
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    Font - We let Lucy hang out with "Chloe", my 14 year old. We thought she'd be a good influence, someone to aspire to be like. Eventually the topic of Christmas presents came up. We got Chloe some clothes, but Lucy then rubbed in the (more expensive) clothes she got for Christmas, and then said she would be "embarrassed" to be seen "dressed like that" in public.
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    Font - Chloe was crying and I was raging. What the hell is wrong with a 19 year old who bullies a 14 year old? I told Lucy her words were inappropriate, and she laughed and replied "it's the truth" and that "she has to learn eventually".
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    Font - I told Anna it would be best if she and her daughter left. Anna said that Lucy hadn't done anything wrong and that Chloe was "being sensitive". I responded back that Lucy obviously takes after her dad in personality. This really upset Anna, who left with Lucy.
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    Font - My husband thinks comparing Lucy to my brother was too far, but her behaviour is exactly the sort of thing my brother would do when he was younger. He was abnormal even as a young child and was cruel to younger children and animals. I've had my parents (who they've also reconnected with) calling me asking why "their granddaughter" is crying because I said she was like her father. I'm sorry but if she's going to bully younger kids, I will call out her disgusting behaviour.
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    Font - tatasz · 1 day ago Certified Proctologist [28] I feel Lucy is not like your brother, she is just like your SIL, who approves of her behaviour and enables it. At any rate, while you were rude, it was not uncalled. NTA, they asked for it, you gave it to them. Go no contact and live happily ever after. 6.0k Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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    Human body - Fiftyfails92 · 1 day ago NTA at least for me.Your niece is an adult and shouldnt bash on a 14 year old child.It sucks her dads in jail but she seems undisciplined and spoiled.OP did no wrong in my eyes
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    Font - PattersonsOlady · 1 day ago Certified Proctologist [20] NTA - you actually knew her father (probably much better than her mother) and you are in a perfect position to compare their personalities. 1.5k Reply Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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    Font - GoodGirlsGrace · 1 day ago I agree. It's more of a SIL problem than a brother problem. SIL was the one who raised Lucy and allowed - supported - this bullying, obnoxious behavior. It's not genetics, but rather the upbringing that matters. I would say that the brother comment was unnecessary, but OP tried to call Lucy out in a polite manner, and that achieved nothing. Lucy and mom even doubled down on their rudeness (laughed at OP saying she's right). It's not ideal, but her disgusting bul
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